Success - Failure - Letting Go
There are cycles of success, when things come to you and thrive, and cycles of failure, when they wither or disintegrate, and you have to let them go in order to make room for new things to arise, or for transformation to happen. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
Allowing this cycle to happen in my life takes practice and patience. When I try to control my outer world, pain and suffering ensue. These are good clues that it is time to let go of my fears and worries.
On a personal level, the most impactful way this shows up is when a relationship ends. For example, when a dear friend has drifted away. Often my mind tries to figure out what happened. Taking dedicated time to reflect is helpful. Having the thoughts show up while I am washing dishes is not. It takes concentration to focus on the simple task at hand. So I give myself the space needed to process this change so my brain is at ease as I go about my day.
Taking the time to journal gives me a way to get my thoughts out of my head and onto the paper. Feeling the corresponding emotions relieves my body of the stress. Thoughts and emotions are meant to acknowledged, felt and allowed to flow through the mind and body. If the ending of the relationship is painful, it usually takes more time to process all of the aspects of letting go so I can move on.
On a professional level, the cycle is most apparent when I change careers or acquire new job responsibilities. This is because I am now outside of my comfort zone and looking for things to hold onto so I can feel confident and safe. My inner critical voice becomes extremely active at these times. It tries to get me back to the way things were. Again, this requires a focus to stay present. In Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice by Robert Firestone, he provides many exercises you can use to challenge your inner critic.
When you are ready to let go, I recommend practicing the I Let Go Meditative Movement™ so the energy can flow. Although when you perform the movement, it may aid you in getting ready.
Things happen and are constantly changing. My personal life edict is to witness all of life and be fully present. This means experiencing the physical sensations completely as they course through my body – pleasant and unpleasant. Especially the ones that make me want to run away. As I learn to be with myself, I willing let go so I can be happy and at peace.
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