In the Magic of Thinking Big by Dr. David Schwartz, he encourages his readers to SMILE BIG. Smile until your teeth show. No half-hearted wimpy grin. Smiling is great medicine for any confidence deficiency. Have you ever thought of smiling as a confidence booster? He claims people don't believe smiling works because they haven't smiled when they feel fear. Try putting a foolish grin on your face and see if you can feel defeated. Here is what a real, genuine smile can do for you.
David shared a story of getting rear ended in his car. He forgot his own advice and was ready to tell the offender what he thought of him. When the driver approached him with a sincere smile and said, "Friend, I really didn't mean to do that," he was grateful. A potential negative experience was turned into a friendship by that simple smile and kind words. We all need reminders how to be our best selves.
Yes, you need to acknowledge how you are feeling and thinking to yourself. However, that does not mean you need to share your emotions like anger or frustration with others. Managing your thoughts and emotions means you are aware of them, feel them and can consciously decide how you want to act. This is true self-regulation. Our releasing Meditative Movements give you a healthy way to let go of any difficult emotions. In this way, you do not blame others for how you are feeling. You take responsibility for yourself. Being kind to yourself means you free yourself from harmful energies. Then you are able to communicate effectively and take constructive action.
One of my coaching clients was struggling on the golf course. As his shots got worse, his frustrations rose. Being aware of this, he practiced the I Release Frustration Meditative Movement™ in his mind. After allowing those energies to be released from his mind and body, he was able to finish the round with ease and at his full potential. He did smile the rest of game and his score reflected his outlook.
Many people are confused with how to be with difficult emotions because of their upbringing. Instead of self-regulation, they have learned to deny, avoid or repress their emotions. This leads to all sorts of addictions and problems. When you are honest with yourself, you can harness your personal power in a new way. You can create a better outcome for yourself and others.
It is a good idea to practice your smile when you are alone. Check out the I Smile Meditative Movement™ instructions. Once you master the art of smiling because you can, you can move on to smiling when you are angry or afraid. The trick is to tell yourself forcefully that you are going to smile and then do it. Harness the power of smiling. The more you practice, the easier it will be for you. The only thing you have to lose is your frown.
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