Have you noticed your mind complaining more? Are there nagging, unsettling feelings that need your attention? Now could be an opportune time to grieve your grievances. Before the pandemic hit, I purchased a colorful mug contoured to resemble an owl's face with protruding ears. My heart sank the day I opened the cupboard to find a chipped ear.
Briefly, sadness and anger co-existed in my body. Growing up in a family of nine, my thoughts quickly searched for who was to blame. Now that I live only with my husband, the list of possible suspects is short. Focusing on the culprit derailed my ability to simply grieve my loss.
You may be experiencing significant losses right now. Your job, relationship changes, your inability to go wherever you want and your health. Often the most difficult losses are those in the mind like unmet dreams and expectations. For many, our natural ability to grieve needs to be relearned. Taking the time to experience grief probably isn't on your to-do list. Therefore I'm reminding you of the potential benefits:
In Forgiveness: The Greatest Healer of All by Gerald Jampolsky, he shares how Martin Luther King Jr. and Nelson Mandela found their way to forgiveness while they were in jail by acknowledging their feelings of bitterness, anger, and vengeance. He states, "They came to realize that the real jail is in our minds when we are full of fear, anger and deep grievance. They moved beyond these feelings to begin bringing about the social changes they stood for."
The COVID-19 Shelter in Place edict may cause you to feel jailed. You can take this time to honor your own grievances. One thing I know for sure is that denying, repressing, avoiding or covering up our feelings causes dis-ease. They are meant to flow. The "Peanuts" comic strip character, Charlie Brown, would often say, "Good grief." Yes, to grief being good. It is as valuable and necessary as the other difficult emotions. Remember to seek professional help when you need it.
Another good resource is: That Discomfort You're Feeling Is Grief by Scott Berinato
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